Are You Splitting Up? How to Help Your Young People Stay on Track During & After Divorce
Workshops for Young People
Teenagers and children managing divorce
Divorce or separation is stressful for the whole family, but young people between the ages of twelve and sixteen are most at risk of developing anxiety and depression when their parents split up. The age group of 13-16 years is now the largest being diagnosed with depression and so additional support is valuable at this difficult time.
Often young people try and protect their parents from how they are feeling and they often try to hide their worries, not wanting to add to their parents’ distress. They themselves are likely to be going through many changes and trying to get a grip on their own lives, so living with a parental break-up at the same time may tip them over the edge, when what they really need is stability at an important time in their development.
So how can you support your children during this time and reduce the risk of them being affected by anxiety or depression?
We offer a tailor made course, clinically proven to reduce stress and boost emotional resilience in young people and if your son or daughter is also feeling stressed because of exams, this course provides the skills to support them though this difficult period.
Therefore, by a young person learning strategies to manage their own thoughts, feelings and emotions about separation or divorce, they develop the life skills to bounce back more quickly from life-changing events and the simple challenges of everyday life.
Both trainers on this course have worked with young people in a variety of settings and are fully DBS checked.
Jo Bentley has been teaching mindfulness to adults, teenagers and children for the last 8 years, after post graduate training at Bangor University and with the Mindfulness in Schools project. Jo works with young people in a range of settings in the North West of England and the USA.
In 2014 Jo was asked by Cumbria County Council to create a programme which would boost emotional resilience amongst young people. The project was funded by the Big Lottery as part of Head Start and Jo’s programme included training teachers and working in schools to teach mindfulness skills to young people in Carlisle and Barrow. The programme continues and now includes primary schools and secondary schools in the South Lakes area of Cumbria. Research with 900 students showed that the majority of students felt more able to cope with challenges in their lives and had developed strategies for dealing with worry, stress, difficult thoughts and emotions, there are also improvements in focus and concentration.
Comments from young people who have taken the course include;
‘Thank you for helping me to manage my anger, I have a better relationship now with my Mum’ Lisa 14yrs
‘I can get to sleep now, I used to lie awake all night, my head wouldn’t let me sleep’ Oliver, 15 yrs
‘I thought it would be boring to be calm, but it helps me with everything’ Jane 16 yrs
‘I have a quiet space I can go to when it’s all mad around me’ Tom 11 yrs
Jo’s work has been featured on BBC TV, BBC Radio 4 and 5Live and in the Huffington Post.
Adriana Galimberti-Rennie is an Associate Fellow of the British Psychological Society and has spent over 25 years helping couples & families who are trying to stay together or have decided to split up. She is an expert in collaborative divorce and a chartered psychologist who has dealt with a wide range of issues during her 30 years experience. Adriana is also an author, a frequent commentator for the BBC, and lectures to lawyers and psychologists on dispute resolution and communication skills.
Sept 18th, 25th, Oct 2, 9th & 16th 2018 (for 9 - 12 year olds).
Nov 13th, 20th, 27th, Dec 4th & 11th 2018 (for 13 -16 year olds).
Jan 29th, Feb 5th, 12th, Mar 5th & 12 (for 9 - 12year olds).
“By the way. Thank you. I really appreciate everything you have done for us both...It has made things a lot clearer and easier to get through.”
“I just thought I’d drop you a message. I’m now living in.... and about to buy a new house. I have a new job. I feel like I’ve accomplished a lot.... I’m a much stronger person than I ever was. Our daughter gets to see her dad every weekend. We get on most of the time. I thought you’d like to know that I’m doing ok. Take care.”
“It was just to tell you what has happened. It has been an extraordinary few years! My two children are still living in the same house, only five minutes’ walk from me. I see them loads and they are really good company! Their mother, is well and we are on good terms and communicating well - who’d have thought that! I am well too. This is just to say that with every success that comes the way of the children and me, I often think back to our meetings with gratitude!”
“Everyone should have access to this way to divorce.”